Moving to Los Angeles

Moving to Los Angeles was the best decision I ever made. My whole life, I was a people pleaser and would put my life on the back burner so that I could ensure that other people were happy. Moving to LA was something that I always wanted to do, but I felt like I would never succeed, and I was afraid of people seeing me as a failure. Once my divorce was finalized, I realized I needed a fresh start, but I didn’t want to just run from everything. My friend moved to LA 8 months before my divorce, and her lease was coming to an end, so I had a roommate, and she hooked me up with a job, so all I had to do was make the actual move.

Once I felt comfortable that I wasn’t running. I loaded up my car, said bye to my family and friends, and made the 6-hour drive from Sacramento to Los Angeles.  I knew nobody except my roommate, but I was excited.

Now the true test began, though. How was I going to survive?

I was super close with my family and consider my mom my best friend. I am the kind of person who loves being around people, but in a city where I knew no one, that is hard. I also never had to pay bills on my own, and by being married and having 2 incomes, I was able to take whatever days off work I wanted, but now that I am on my own, I can't do that. There are so many times when I just want to pack up my stuff and move home, but it is usually when I start to fear that I am going to fail.

Living in LA was the best decision I made because I am on my own, and as crazy as that sounds, that is what I needed to do to figure out who I am as a person. I could easily still live in Sacramento with my parents, but that is not what I felt was best for me. I needed to be out on my own and failed to find myself.

It has been almost two years now, and I couldn't be happier. I feel like I have found my identity and what my passions are. It has been the longest year and a half because there has been so much happening, but it has also been the best year! I have fought so hard to become strong and independent, and for once, I finally feel secure in myself and have more of an idea of what I want to do with my life.

Make the tough decisions and live the life that you want to live because the only thing that you will regret is that you did not do it.

If I can do it, So can you!!